Obviously Never You……
You know that feeling when you invest you time and effort into something and it turns out it was in vain. That moment when you know the response you’re about to hear isn’t the one you worked so hard for.
The feeling you get as you wait for the answer your stomach is twisted, your body feel tired from all the effort sort of relieved the waiting is coming to an end. You are willing with all your heart and soul that things go your way.
But they don’t.
The answers no… There are so many ways in our language to say “No”
Job interviews have the most impersonal lines.
“Thank you for your time we just feel there’s no space in our organisation for you at this point.”
That’s great.. but what was wrong with us for you not to have a place for us… if you told us we could work on it and become stronger in the future.
Or how about the brush off.
“We have your details we will contact you soon.”
No you won’t, just let us know we wasn’t successful and we can move on.
It’s not just jobs that give us the indirect “No”… recognise these?
“Sorry I have a boy friend…”
“Yeah Right!” (always a harsh one)
And My personal favourite and most experienced brush off.
“You’re such a great friend I wouldn’t want to ruin that.”
Personally I prefer the straight…
“You seem nice but your just not my type.”
The funny thing is no matter how the “no” is delivered you end up with that same disappointing feeling, the more you want it the worse it feels.
But believe me it serves a purpose…
That one time out of what feels like 100…. That one time she smiles and says she’d love to go out or she’d love a drink.
That one time when you actually build up the guts to talk to her and you hit it off……
That one time when you spend 3 weeks working on your interview presentation and they are so impressed by your work that they hire you on the spot.
They leave you on such a high that you end up forgetting about your past disappointments.
I’m still working through the disappointments looking for my high……